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Reactance : Doing the Opposite

We have seen that children often do the exact opposite of what they are ask to do.The wife is often heard saying to the husband, from the first day of marriage "Why you always disagree with me? Why you always do the exact opposite of my wish ? This is psychology of human being that sometimes they do the exact opposite of what they were ask to do.Another way we can get this by saying that people often to the same thing which they were not allowed to do.This is because of "Reactance" , it is human behaviour when they see that somebody is restricted them or somebody is snatching their freedom, so people do the exact opposite.In reactance people normally does the wrong thing, like children do the wrong thing when they dis obey their elders.I see that normally the reactance is bad for the individual or the group committing the reactance, If we see that it is good for us then we don't have to go opposite. Lets read what The great leader , Most brave person said o n the

Pakistan: In Search of Heroes

It is very common to hear that the children are not willing to learn and are not serious for the studies.As I see that my own brother is not very serious about his studies, he plays Cricket more than the studies.It is very easy to blame all the comforts given to the children nowadays but my theory is little bit different.When I study this case psychological, I came to a good reason behind that.Children or teen follow the marks of the person whom they see famous , respectable and successful.In today's society who is respectable? Cricketer, Actor ,the one who does the morning show, Big businessman , Singer and the list goes on, have you ever heard a person in Pakistan who is famous for doing studies or famous due to courage to speak truth or a brave person? 99% will reply in negative, It is a bitter truth. When I was growing up, I have many role models for me or What many people says "Heroes".When I was young I just wanted to be in Army or Air force and wanted to lay dow

The Loss Of Soul In Education

It has been a great debate over the last few years and before that also, that technology has serve the humanity or it looses the charm from the humanity.For example, we observe that the old music or songs seems to be more soulful and the recent songs looses their charm in very short period of time.Why is that so? Some say that because of many musical albums people forgets the song very soon, some say that this is not good music or voice, some say people want freshness but as always I have a different theory.I think that due to the use of digital music instead of playing the instrument together, songs looses the beauty and soul that is why we say the old is gold or say them that they are evergreen songs.What I want to say is that use of technology helps us in many ways but due to it's over usage everything seems to be meaning less and sweet less. The same applies in education also , due to the introduction of technology the humanity has built themselves in many waves but in a la

Don't Worry....Be Happy !

Along with the many bad things, the corporatism has largely increase the sadness or what psychologist says , depression .There was a time when the people were happier than they are now.Many people will oppose me but what i am saying is true.The expansion in the media especially the news casting media , people are much likely to be depressed.People will say that the media shows the truth ....whats wrong in that?Yeah i agree that the news media shows the truth but as we all know that today our society has negative more than the positive.I relate that with a example that the water sewerage system is also a truth of society and we can not ignore that but it is useful and bearable when it is hidden , if it has made open will it help society? No. Another thing which is important that by explaining bad to people we can't stop that bad thing but by preaching the good among people will increase the good among them. I know i can not change it by writing a blog but what i can do i will try