Imagine (i know you will not imagine, but try it for a
second),you are sentenced to jail for imprisonment for all the years of your
remaining life. What a person consider in a jail that he/she will not be
allowed to meet their family, relatives , friends, have to leave all their
desires, have to leave those things which make them happy and he/she will not
be allowed to enjoy the life. Some will think that the rules and regulations
that they will face in jail are bigger problem; have to live with new known people.
I will hate to go there and i am sure nobody except mad people wants to go
there.
But still there are some people who accepts the imprisonment
with open heart , smiling and willingly and those creature is none other than “Women”.
They leave their homes , parents , desires and those things with which they
were living since their birth ,I am talking about their marriage after which
they leave their homes and start living with the new known people sometimes
having different rituals , culture , language, religion and sometimes it’s just
a different sect. Why they do so ???? to be a part of a new family , to have
their own family and for the love of Husband. Imagine a person is sacrificing
all of her desires just because of one promise (Nikah) that her husband made
with her .It shows the love and trust of that girl on her would be husband. In
such a big sacrifice she should be treated like a princess , at least she
should be treated like a Human being. Today when i see around myself , i see
they are treated like a cook , like a maid , like a gardener , like a care
taker, like a governess and i am very sorry to say this but today mainly this
best creature of God is treated like a child birthing machine .OMG this is the
worst treatment with the gift of God and i am sure the people who treat woman
like this will be punished on the day of judgement.
What a husband should
do; Love her , respect her , respect her parents and give her the time in which
she can talk to you. The wife and husband should discuss and should share each
other’s happiness and pain. When i want see the best example of a husband i see
my Prophet Muhammad S.A.W. , who prayed more than anyone in this world but
still he gave his time to his wives. Some will say that today it is not
possible then i see the example of my father who has always been a good husband,
good father, good son. He always give us time, share his opinion, respect his
mother and as well his wife. But today the most of the husband always runs
after money ,go to work early and come late, i have seen a husband who go to
his work at 12 noon when his children were in school and come late at 12 night
when his children has went to sleep. They spent Sundays sleeping, this will add
a bigger responsibility to his wife as she has to do the home jobs as well as
the care of his children all time. Because of this the health both physical and
mental of woman is disturbed in the last ten years or so. Who has not seen that
today’s woman is not as fit as they were before and this leads to fights and
that leads to separation or divorce. For God sake do not ruin the flower, the
gift of God otherwise the punishment of God will be severe. Other type of
husbands is extremists type,that is the religious type. They go to the Tabligh
for many days or for sometimes months, is this right with them???Spreading of
Islam is important but remember you can’t even take her wife for granted.
Manage your time at least give sometime to your wife also. Remember that Allah
can forgive the violation of His rights but the violation of the rights of
mankind will only be forgiven when the person who suffered will allow.
What girl’s parents should do; ask your daughter about his
opinion do not obligate your daughters on your decisions. Listen to her choice
and arrange marriage with their choices. It is not prohibited in Islam to marry
your daughter to her choice. The girl should be allowed to marry with her
choice otherwise the God will not forgive you on your wrong decision. Every
blessing from God comes with a responsibility ,please listen to her.
What man’s parents should do; Please treat your daughter in law
like your own daughter otherwise what you do with your son’s wife will be
replied by Allah though your own daughter.
What wife can do;i know i am asking more as i have told they
do many things but if you face any problem or somebody accuses you false,
fights with you , does something wrong to you ...talk to them and make them
remember the death and day of judgement.
Do it with best possible manner Insha Allah it will work for you.
May Allah Forgive me. Ameen
ameen ...Jzk bro for ur sincere advice.... really worth reading... women do need a break smetime... want her hubby share n concern much more smetime... facing difficulties become easier thats way...
ReplyDeleteThank you sister, certainly everybody needs break and especially after the hard work , wives perform daily and yes by caring and sharing with each other the difficulties can dis appear.
Deleteunfortunately many men after they get married treat their wives as a simple object
ReplyDeleteThat's very unfortunate but we all have to share this message to every people we know may be it can change the mindset.
DeleteProbably your best post ever! Really women should be treated with love, care and trust.
ReplyDeleteWhat I don't get is, now, when people are "more" educated about the rights of women I feel they are neglecting their rights "more". I mean when I see my mother, aunts or any other women belonging to their generation , they are more happy then girls belonging to this generation.
Yes i agree with you, every other post was a reaction to certain action but this is direct action from my heart. Coming towards the topic the main reason i think that today most of the people misunderstand the woman and think that their happiness is in the money and they have forgotten to care and share with each other that's why today's generation is suffering.Instead of working for 12 hours if they work for 8 hours and give the the remaining time to the family then it will make a big difference.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful Thankyou helps me!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you....welcome....if it helps then i achieved my goal.
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ReplyDeleteAwesome! i am so proud of ur thought you know what 100 out of 50%person think like as you above mention another treat her wives like servant.....plz i just say to all male plz respect every women without hers u r nothing..
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